When are we at our most sensitive?

 

There are three occasions when we are highly sensitive to energy:

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1. After trauma or pleasure

2. When we are intensely emotional

3. Around the time of the new moon, or for women, just before we menstruate

 

When we are experiencing one of the above and have contact with the world, our spiritual guard is lower. When we are simply walking down the street, we are open to, and can soak up, other energies. All energy has a charge; and that can be positive and negative. The masculine energies (and that doesn't mean every man's) are volatile in our world at the moment. There is an anger evident in how we are treating ourselves and each other and the planet. Energy has a charge, and it can be negative.

 

So let’s have a look at how these three situations make us more sensitive…

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After trauma or pleasure

 

Trauma and pleasure open us up. It is as simple as that. It is almost as though our soul leaves our bodies momentarily and invites anything and everything else in. That sudden movement allows energy to be taken, for us to fall flat back down to earth (swinging low after swinging high), or for us to be moulded.

 

Take somebody in a long-term relationship being asked for sex. If they find themselves saying, ‘I don’t really want to tonight, but I will to keep the peace,’ then this is them opening when they don’t want to. Over time, they become vulnerable, keeping on opening until they are utterly depleted. There is a domino affect of saying yes once when it is not welcome, and continuing down that path of being too open, and saying yes again because now they are vulnerable.

 

We should always feel we have the choice to say no.

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In the case of trauma, our brain sends frantic messages to our body in relation to survival. We enter fight or flight mode, and this is not a healing state to be in. Trauma invites that pain in again and again, because it is telling the brain to keep us safe from it in the future -- to keep us prepared so we do not let it happen ever again.

 

 

Intense emotion

 

Love! We open to everything! Possibility. The possibility of something wonderful, and the possibility of rejection. Our inner child comes bouncing out; the one that needs acceptance and nurturing. We are open fully to the agony that comes with it. Fully open to the person who we love. Fully open to our past pain. But sacrifice is what happens when we get swept away by love without having first healed our childhood. And at this time, we are not centred. We are giving too much away.

 

Sadness, fear, anger, shame, and guilt. At times of extreme negative emotion, we are puncturing ourselves with holes in which to receive more. If we can feel into and release these emotions, we are healing. If we hold onto or repress them and take them out into the world with us day after day, we are inviting in more of the same. People will treat us badly because we don't know how to treat ourselves.

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And yes... Becoming overjoyed or manic also makes us sensitive. If we cannot keep our joy grounded, with deep roots in the earth, our joy is sought after. People are leeches for heightened emotion.

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At the time of the new moon, or for women, just before we menstruate

 

We know all about ‘the week before’; how we cry when served cold pasta in a restaurant or if someone does not say thank you when we hold open a door. We are told this is bad and that we as women are monsters at this time. No. It is not bad, and we are not monsters.

 

Our sensitivity is heightened, and it is important to remember that we will be more susceptible to receiving other people’s pain and/or trauma. This could in fact be the very reason we are crying! We are feeling for the world. Then we bleed, which makes us vulnerable in a very physical manner. That, too, of course, will sensitise us further.

 

 

 

 

What Happens Out In The World?

 

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There are never-ending connections happening in the energy world – imagine it like phone signals and WiFi, whizzing through and from us all the time – though we can’t see them. When we are in a busy, crowded place, we are always emitting our own energy and absorbing other people’s. If someone sits opposite us on a train journey, we experience a connection. Whether they eat loudly and we get annoyed, or if we briefly make eye contact with them, there is an energetic exchange going on.

 

Put simply, we are constantly interacting with people, whether we are speaking to them or not. And if we are not mindful, even though we may bite our tongue in person, our energies are fully wrestling with those of others.

 

 

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How To Shield And Yet Stay Open

 

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There are three main ways in which we interact: physically, vocally, and spiritually. All involve setting boundaries.

 

Physically

To physically stay protected, we must be able to firmly remove somebody’s hands from our body if we are uncomfortable (I am obviously talking about situations where we have a choice). It sounds very simple, but so often we let somebody touch us or poke us or put their hands on us in the name of a ‘joke’, when really it is unwelcome. And telling somebody to stop when there is laughter about and a sense of joviality can feel impossible. But it’s not. And it is important that we always feel we have the choice to remove anything from our bodies that does not belong there. When we do turn round and explain that it is not okay, there is a huge drawing in of power. It is phenomenal.

 

There is now important parenting advice circulating, which is not to force children to kiss or hug people. This is brilliant. There are many ways to say hello or thank you if a child feels uncomfortable with physical touch at that time, and they must know from a young age that their body is their body. It does not belong to anyone else. This does not stop them being polite and having good manners.

 

Vocally

To vocally stay protected, we must feel we have the ability to say ‘no’. It is a simple word, but again, as above, we often do not feel that we can turn to somebody and reject or deny their request. In fact, it is even more difficult. We want to please. We feel we are being selfish if we say no. The core feminine energy; the energy of the womb, wants to give and nurture. She does not want to turn anyone away. We also sense a rising confrontation with the word ‘no’, and I am sure many of you will join me in despising clashes.

 

It must be done. We must be able to turn to somebody and say no. This is the way to retain our inner power and strength. We start this challenge early with our parents; perhaps they have chosen our careers or told us what we can and can't wear. At a time when we are unable to say no, we go out into the world with the mentality still there: 'I can't say no'. You can, and you must.

 

Spiritually

Energetically, protecting ourselves is a lot more difficult. Physically, we can see when someone is taking from us. Vocally, we can hear a question or demand which we can respond to. But energetically, the forces are invisible. When someone directs hate our way, or wraps our essence around them and walks away with it, it could be too late by the time we realise!

 

Centred core: if we are constantly letting ourselves be dragged into arguments or blown away by intense emotion, people find their way in. If our core is strong, we cannot be harmed. The core includes the whole centre of the body, because this is where we hold the heart and the womb (which is the space of intuition for both women and men). When I feel myself moving away from the centre, chasing my emotions, I place two fingers on my heart and re-enter my body through that space. This immediately brings love to a situation. Send that energy all over the body with a few deep breaths, firing the womb area (the intuition) with power to realise you have a choice.

 

Awareness: when you are next out, imagine that there are spirits above people’s heads, or that somebody is emitting a colour. When you see someone, notice how you perceive their spirit to be behaving or what colour they are emitting, perhaps based on body language or tone of voice. If it intuitively feels negative, disconnect on an emotional level, and if possible, remove yourself from the situation. We go through life saying, ‘oh but I have to do this’. No, you don’t. Find a way to put some distance between you. You don't need to scream through a loudspeaker that you are doing so. Just quietly know.

 

Side note: energy does not know time and space. Be aware of those you are not necessarily in the same space as, but who you know may direct anger your way. Send love out from the core and the heart in total awareness. Equally, bring your own energy back to you when you feel it flying off. Sit with feelings of anger so you can transmute them, and be aware of where you need to pull your energy back in.

 

Raising your vibration: when we raise our energetic vibration, those who are trapped in lower energies are unable to penetrate our field - but don't let the ego get involved here. We raise our vibration through meditation (below), song, dance, creativity, vegetarianism, veganism, random acts of kindness, loving thoughts, self-love… The list is endless. You know the next step for yourself in raising your vibration, so be brave and take it.

 

Meditation: in meditation, we can fully align our thoughts with only that which serves us. Take deep but gentle breaths, centre yourself in the now. Place an intention for there to be distance between you and anything that does not serve you. By being in the now, we come into a full awareness of all that is occurring, because everything is happening in this very moment.

 

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Strengthening Mind And Core

 

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In LIMITLESS: How Not To Take A Selfie, I detail the benefits of yoga, tai chi, pilates, and self-defence. To keep ourselves protected, that core we take out into the world should be strong and looked after. This means that nourishing food and thought is hugely significant.

 

When we are strengthening the body, we are strengthening self-love. We bring our mind into its power by focusing on this very moment, too. The act of allowing ourselves to deepen into a stretch (which can be a stretch of the body or a stretch of silence) expands our attention span, our concentration, our attitudes, and what we believe we are capable of. It is a huge step towards transformation.

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When faced with an uncomfortable situation, we are well within our rights to walk away and take five minutes to re-centre.

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